We don’t live in a cookie cutter world, so what I don’t understand is why everyone insists on having a cookie cutter wedding? Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue – it’s something boring! Why have a boring wedding in the name of tradition? There’s no fun in that. I’d rather be original, or at least as original as possible, and not indulge myself in the worst wedding clichés in human history.
1) Reading Corinthians
There must be another verse in the Bible that talks about love, right? (more…)
You’ve all heard the tale of Bridezilla, right? The bride-to-be who is so manic, micromanaging, and stressed out that she becomes a nightmare to her friends, family, and sadly her spouse-to-be? Yes, we’ve all seen it – and it’s just pitiful. I vowed to myself that when the time came for me to wear the white dress, even if I couldn’t manage to be cool, calm, and collected, at the very least I would be nice!
Little did I know that it wouldn’t be me who would try to make a mess of my wedding, but one of my bridesmaids.
Jamie K. was my best friend in Chicago when (more…)
Many people ask me why I decided to convert to Judaism especially when I was raised by atheist parents in Chicago, Illinois – but when I tell them about Jacob, they tend to understand. He is the kindest most sincerest of men – soft-spoken, peaceful – and very much in love with me. Although we rode the same bus every morning for three years, because we worked in the same area of town, it took him the full time to ever begin talking to me at all. I’ll never forget his first uncertain words to me. He said. “Miss, for a long time I have struggled to say hello to you, but with each passing day it becomes clearer that someday I may not have the opportunity. So before I miss out – hello, my name is Jacob. What’s your name?” (more…)
Sometimes it’s overwhelming to thing that a single day can be so significant. Like all the other days before this day seem to pale when compared to it – and you know that all that days after it will be different. They’ll be different because of the inescapable fact that your life has changed forever. Instead of being one person with one heart and two souls, you become two people sharing the same heart and forming a bond between your souls. You can’t go through something of this magnitude and expect to go on living as before – love does change you, and marriage alters your entire world. (more…)
There are three things I know to be irrefutably true: (1) I am getting married in September, (2) a morning without coffee is a terribly sad one, and (3) dogs are better than cats. You have every right to disagree with me, but this is my list – a rather short one – but no matter how much you may try to convince me otherwise, I will continue to stand my ground.
Before I met Steven, I only had one love in my life – my dogs. I’ve grown up with these four legged friends, and there’s never been a time in my life where I haven’t had at least two in the house. I also foster a Chicago nonprofit, so many times there’s a third one to keep me company on cold nights. Right now I have two: Bonnie and Samson. Bonnie is a border collie and Samson is a terrier-meets-collie-meets-nobody has a clue. (more…)
When my dad died seven weeks before my wedding day I was completely devastated. My whole world froze. Every girl dreams of her daddy walking her down the aisle, giving her away…and now, for one of the most important days of my life he wouldn’t be there. For the rest of my life, all the little joys and the rough times, the birth of my first child and the opening of my bakery, he wouldn’t be there.
It probably was selfish of me to think about things this way, but you have to understand that my dad and I were close…really close. My dad and my mom separated when I was four, (more…)
Not every girl dreams of a big white wedding. Some girls – the ones who grow up in a large Irish family – dream about a traditional Celtic Handfasting. Now, I’m not a pagan by any means, in fact, the handfasting ceremony has come to be associated with neo-paganism when it actually pre-dates the modern traditional wedding ceremony. Have you ever heard the phrase “tying the knot?” That comes from handfasting. Handfasting can be religious or non-religious, anyone who tells you otherwise is historically misinformed. Even in early English manuscripts, when they spoke of Mary (the mother of Jesus) marriage to Joseph, the marriage was described as a handfasting. Obviously, Mary and Joseph never had a traditional Celtic handfasting ceremony, but the description just shows the prevalence of the practice.
Setting the Record Straight
The tradition originated in the British Isles in the early Middle Ages when the religious elders decided to forbid secret marriages. (more…)
I absolutely love water. It may be because I’m a Pisces, or that I grew up along the Gulf Coast of western Florida, but I can’t get enough of it. I had always dreamed of the idea of an underwater wedding someplace exotic, but that being unfeasible in the murky waters of Lake Michigan, I settled for the next best thing – an ocean themed wedding.
A lot of people asked me when I first started the preparations: “So you’re having a beached themed wedding right?” I politely told them no, I was having an ocean themed wedding. The difference? Beaches bring to mind sandals and palm trees, sunburns and coconut tanning oil. Ocean, on the other hand, is salt-spray, beautiful shades of turquoise, and tropical fish. It’s a thin line, but the line is there. (more…)